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Now, I think that some guys may have a bit of a dilemma: They really are just happy-go-lucky guys who smile a lot. My advice for them is to hold back a bit when they first meet a new woman or the smiling behavior will be misinterpreted as weakness. Dominance also means NOT LISTENING to every complaint that women give you, since half the time, women are complaining only to see if you will kiss their ass! If you ever sense that a woman's complaint is sounding like an attempt for control, you better make sure to stick to your guns (unless she points out a valid criticism, etc) or you will find that she will start to nag you even MORE....all to see if you are losing your touch as THE MAN.
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If she’s attractive, she usually thinks she KNOWS why you approached- so what she’s really saying is “I know you think I’m hot, so I’m going to be difficult and see how much you will kiss my butt.”
So of course if you say something like “Uh…(all nervous, as if you’ve been caught doing some CRIME) no, I uh…just wanted to ask you something….” Then all you accomplish is looking APOLOGETIC in the presence of a superior, thereby killing all attraction. Instead, say something that shows YOU ARE TOTALLY comfortable and having a good time, and that she is WAY too serious if she thinks you are so serious about HER. The way to do this is to be PLAYFUL. Something like: “No, only girls that look homeless and need help”. |
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They do this with extra-nice behavior, like smiling way more than they would with someone else, or by buying her fancy dinners, or by showing off in an effort to show that they are worthy.
Sometimes, guys give off the aura of being inferior by acting MEAN, which women can see right through as a device designed to overcompensate for low self-esteem. And because attractive women are BOMBARDED by men, they must QUICKLY decide if a guy is worth their time- this is why FIRST IMPRESSIONS are so important. Attractive women feel sexual chemistry a man who EXUDES an aura of ABSOLUTE SUPERIORITY. Some guys think this means to be a total jerk. Wrong. A jerk would show off a lot, and be cruel, and give off the message that he is actually insecure. Which is almost as bad as being too nice. |
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