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hi i was out the other weekend to a new bar that a friend of mine dj's at thought something different. i meet this girl i know from work and we were really hitting it off. about mid night or so a girl that had broke up with me comes in with a bounch of her friends. she acts all jealous of this other girl. keeps asking me who is this, what are you doing and so on. so i brush her off a little and don't really say much.

then at the end of the night she
wants to know what i'm doing if i'm going somewhere else. i didn't really give her an answer. then she tells her ride to go, and asks me if i could give her a ride to go somewhere else , and i didn't have any entensions of leaving because i has hitting it off really well with this other girl. so being the nice guy i am i gave her a ride. do you think i have any chance with the other girl even though i let her hanging, and left with my ex instead.
How to relax is perhaps beyond the scope of this newsletter, but I will give you some pointers:

- Relaxation starts with your physical presentation. SLOW DOWN! Move slower and talk a little slower. That will help you pace yourself into a calm zone.

- Don't overdo the caffeine. I joked about the double-Espresso, but too much caffeine is not good for you, as well as making you a bundle of hyper-kinetic nerves. It's like being around a low-grade crack addict.

After all, she doesn't HAVE to try anymore, since you've indicated with your constant smiling that she ALREADY HAS you. Instead of giving a woman ALL THE POWER in the interaction, I recommend you HOLD ON to some of it yourself, and let a woman EARN the rest.

For example, who says you have to FACE A WOMAN COMPLETELY when you talk to her? Even though usually, you SHOULD look at her, and you should NOT have darting eyes, the principle of holding on to your power can even bend this rule if you understand how it works. But certainly, you DON'T HAVE TO ACTUALLY FACE HER WITH THE REST OF YOUR BODY.

At a recent workshop, on of my students went up to a girl at the mall, right by the sign that shows you where everything in the mall is...he started speaking to her while staring at the sign----

Guess what?
We are living in interesting times. On one hand, men and women are free to be sexual with each other like no time ever before in history. You can be sexual with who you want when you want- and there's far less stigma than before- less pressure to get married very early, less pressure to marry a certain type of person, etc.

And everywhere you look, you are bombarded by images of being cool, looking sexy, etc. There are endless products out there to make you look good, smell good, etc.

Yet on the other hand, for the most part, guys have never been so UNcool before, ever in history! And there has never been such a massive gap between the guys who KNOW how to deal with women and the guys who DON'T.
You reinforce something critical to your long-term success with women, and it links right to the core of your confidence. The bottom line is that only a man who is truly confident about his skill with women is able to break up with a woman, because he knows there are more fish in the sea. Do you fear loss, or are you enticed by gain?

I hope you found this helpful. This is a big breakthrough for men, and I want to make sure this understanding is spread to the world. It's so important that I am working on a new book about male self-confidence, and it's related to the Alpha Male perspective.

If you're not the lead dog, all you're doing is looking at ass. The view is the same back there, so you better move up the dominance scale. Get to the front of the pack.

Back to relaxation -

The reason relaxation is so necessary is that all forms of competence require it and display it when they are real and complete.